no way! I thought you were kidding 🙁 Sorry to hear that. You sound like you are taking it very well and doing well. Take care. XXX.
no way! I thought you were kidding 🙁 Sorry to hear that. You sound like you are taking it very well and doing well. Take care. XXX.
Sending lots of Hugs and Kisses to You
Hey girl I am so sorry that I am posting this late! But I am sorry that you and chris are no longer together. *Sending Big Hugs to you* Some times we ever know how or why things happen but I do wish you all the love, joy, and peace that your heart and soul can hold. And if need someone to talk about it I am here always!
Sending lots of Hugs and Kisses to You
Hey girl I am so sorry that I am posting this late! But I am sorry that you and chris are no longer together. *Sending Big Hugs to you* Some times we ever know how or why things happen but I do wish you all the love, joy, and peace that your heart and soul can hold. And if need someone to talk about it I am here always!
oh beverly, i’m sorry to hear the news. 🙁 you deserve all the best in love and i’m glad you know in your heart what you want/need. stay strong girl!
oh beverly, i’m sorry to hear the news. 🙁 you deserve all the best in love and i’m glad you know in your heart what you want/need. stay strong girl!
This is a bit late, but I’m amazed with your strength.
But we’ve decided if we’re not going to be together for the rest of our lives, it’s best to walk away now instead of dragging it on.
Wise and mature decision, IMHO. I do hope you guys still remain friends somehow. 🙂
This is a bit late, but I’m amazed with your strength.
But we’ve decided if we’re not going to be together for the rest of our lives, it’s best to walk away now instead of dragging it on.
Wise and mature decision, IMHO. I do hope you guys still remain friends somehow. 🙂
Hey Bev, sorry for the late reply, but there’s been a terrible flood going on in Jakarta for the past week and so I had to spend some nights at a hotel with no access to the Internet (awful!)
Anyways, I’m sorry to hear about the breakup. I do admire you so much, though. You’re a strong woman who knows exactly what you want and what you deserve. Not many people will have the courage to make such decision, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for so many years. Generally people would just stay in the “comfort zone” and drag on, until one day they meet someone else and realize that the new person is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their life with. And by then it would be too late to get out of the relationship.
As other LJ-er had said, you’re a FANTASTIC catch. Anyone who ends up with you is one hell of a lucky bastard =)
Hope you’ll feel better soon. *hugs*
Hey Bev, sorry for the late reply, but there’s been a terrible flood going on in Jakarta for the past week and so I had to spend some nights at a hotel with no access to the Internet (awful!)
Anyways, I’m sorry to hear about the breakup. I do admire you so much, though. You’re a strong woman who knows exactly what you want and what you deserve. Not many people will have the courage to make such decision, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for so many years. Generally people would just stay in the “comfort zone” and drag on, until one day they meet someone else and realize that the new person is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their life with. And by then it would be too late to get out of the relationship.
As other LJ-er had said, you’re a FANTASTIC catch. Anyone who ends up with you is one hell of a lucky bastard =)
Hope you’ll feel better soon. *hugs*
hey girl, my reply is alittle late. But i hope that it hurts alittle less by now. Each day it will just hurt less till one day it will hurt no more alright?
Meanwhile, if you have decided, then dun look back. Love you and i’ll be praying 🙂
awwww, sad to hear of the break up..
hey girl, my reply is alittle late. But i hope that it hurts alittle less by now. Each day it will just hurt less till one day it will hurt no more alright?
Meanwhile, if you have decided, then dun look back. Love you and i’ll be praying 🙂
Im so sorry hun about the breakup. 🙁
I’m also in a very close “relationship” with my best friend and it’s more about compassion than passion? I also don’t see myself marrying him (i think) and we’ve known each other for a long time… It’s also quite confusing right now. However, your post makes me feel more independent and you made such a strong decision.
Your a lovely person, and I’m positive you’ll find someone you’ll want to spend the rest of you life with soon. 🙂 Life is full of surprises.*Hugs*
awwww, sad to hear of the break up..
Im so sorry hun about the breakup. 🙁
I’m also in a very close “relationship” with my best friend and it’s more about compassion than passion? I also don’t see myself marrying him (i think) and we’ve known each other for a long time… It’s also quite confusing right now. However, your post makes me feel more independent and you made such a strong decision.
Your a lovely person, and I’m positive you’ll find someone you’ll want to spend the rest of you life with soon. 🙂 Life is full of surprises.*Hugs*
oh babes… sorry to hear that but salute to you for being so brave. you are right about the needy,overwhelming love part though! thats every girl’s dream but most of the times, it doesn;t last past 2 year (for me.. ) *hugs* you are not alone!
I’m so sorry to hear that Bev! I’m sure you know what’s best for yourself and that everything will work out okay.
Personally speaking, when I married Cam, I married my best friend. Our love has never been like a scene out of a movie nor have I expected it to be. I’m sure it exists for some people, but for us, we’ve built such a strong partnership based on mutual respect and friendship, and that’s enough for us.
I think you need a strong basis of being best mates, particularly when you go through things like sleepless nights, changing shitty nappies, getting all old and wrinkly etc whereby having just passion to rely on just won’t cut it.
Now if you can find a rich, passionate, best mate of a man, you’ll have hit the jackpot!
oh babes… sorry to hear that but salute to you for being so brave. you are right about the needy,overwhelming love part though! thats every girl’s dream but most of the times, it doesn;t last past 2 year (for me.. ) *hugs* you are not alone!
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m sure it’s better to realise all of that now rather than in 10 years, though. ♥
Nothing to say but *hugs*. I’m proud of you although sad for what you and Chris were for so long…
I’m so sorry to hear that Bev! I’m sure you know what’s best for yourself and that everything will work out okay.
Personally speaking, when I married Cam, I married my best friend. Our love has never been like a scene out of a movie nor have I expected it to be. I’m sure it exists for some people, but for us, we’ve built such a strong partnership based on mutual respect and friendship, and that’s enough for us.
I think you need a strong basis of being best mates, particularly when you go through things like sleepless nights, changing shitty nappies, getting all old and wrinkly etc whereby having just passion to rely on just won’t cut it.
Now if you can find a rich, passionate, best mate of a man, you’ll have hit the jackpot!
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m sure it’s better to realise all of that now rather than in 10 years, though. ♥
Nothing to say but *hugs*. I’m proud of you although sad for what you and Chris were for so long…
When i read your entry, it reminded me of this quote from Sex and the City:
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”
You’re an amazing person, Beverly. I know you hear that a lot but you really are. and you’re going to find that ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love one day.
*Never settle for anything less than butterflies*
*HUGS*
Sorry to hear Bev. Be sure to spoil yourself silly and take some time to pamper yourself. I know you’ll one day find the guy that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. 🙂
*hugs* hang in there babe.
now you can find and marry your prince-charming millionaire (how about that 26 year old one you met a few months ago). and while you’re at it, find me one too.
xoxo
i’m not worried about you, you are a fantastic catch – cute-pretty, smart, successfull. and you are alot like me – i love to be treated like a princess (in return i’ll spoil my guy). i’ve been too spoiled in the past and can not settle for anything less.
oh and you will find that closeness again. welcome to the rest of your life…scary and exciting and totally in your control! *hug*
yosh, sorry to hear about your break up. but it is better that you do this now than later. you need to be with someone that you’re madly in love with. you need passion…
I’m so sorry to hear about it, but I’m glad that you were able to handle this so well. You’re so strong! I’m really, really impressed.
When i read your entry, it reminded me of this quote from Sex and the City:
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”
You’re an amazing person, Beverly. I know you hear that a lot but you really are. and you’re going to find that ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love one day.
*Never settle for anything less than butterflies*
I’m sorry to read about this, I hope you’ll be fine soon and be happy always.
i’m sorry to hear about this & really admire your courage to take this step. i hope you’re doing well!
it takes a lot of strength, courage and self-awareness to reach this decision; you have my respect! And a big hug for the inevitably painful adjustment period that is to come… we’re here for you. *HUG*
*HUGS*
Sorry to hear Bev. Be sure to spoil yourself silly and take some time to pamper yourself. I know you’ll one day find the guy that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. 🙂
*hugs* gal. Get a bunch of galpals, go out and have a blast on V-Day. 🙂
oh bev, i’m sooooooo sorry 🙁 you must be going through a lot of different emotions at the moment, and it’s probably hard to think straight. it’s important to go with gut feelings and intuition, because in the end that’s what’s going to make you feel like the right decision was made (not whether it was rationally the right thing to do)
you seem so mature about it, and that’s really admirable. but you also need to take time to grieve because as you said, you have lost something, and it takes a long time to heal.
*hugs* hang in there babe.
now you can find and marry your prince-charming millionaire (how about that 26 year old one you met a few months ago). and while you’re at it, find me one too.
xoxo
i’m not worried about you, you are a fantastic catch – cute-pretty, smart, successfull. and you are alot like me – i love to be treated like a princess (in return i’ll spoil my guy). i’ve been too spoiled in the past and can not settle for anything less.
oh and you will find that closeness again. welcome to the rest of your life…scary and exciting and totally in your control! *hug*
i guess as girls we want romance that blows us away even when we’ve been with someone for ages. it is indeed sensible to part while you know it won’t hurt as much as some time in the future. feels like i’m reading a chapter from a love novel. stay strong ya. vday can be for friends too!
*huggies*
personally i think its part of settling down, but i’ve not experienced it first hand.
sorry to hear that. only you know what’s the best for you..
*hugs*
yosh, sorry to hear about your break up. but it is better that you do this now than later. you need to be with someone that you’re madly in love with. you need passion…
I’m so sorry to hear about it, but I’m glad that you were able to handle this so well. You’re so strong! I’m really, really impressed.
I’m sorry to hear about this. You & Chris seemed so happy together.
But if you two think you guys made the right choice, then I’ll support you both all the way. 🙂
x
I’m sorry you guys broke up… i hope you will both be ok!
seven year itch??
it happens, Bev..
*hugs*
the good thing is you both walked away now than later
I’m sorry to read about this, I hope you’ll be fine soon and be happy always.
I have to admit, it makes me sad but your decision to walk away now is much better than trying to start up a marriage together when you both feel so differently than you did before. I think that this is something a lot of couples have to think through before they get married. Especially ones that have been together for like 4 years + or around that time frame.
I get what you mean about the finding someone else thing. What you and Chris built together didn’t just take compatibility but tons of time too. I hate to repeat cliche lines to people when they go through a big rough change but you know, things really do happen for a reason..
And I don’t doubt that you’ll find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. Let me know if you need anything! I’m just an email away *HUGS!!* 🙂 Take care, Bev 🙂
no wonder we havent seen photos of u two recently 🙁
i hope u two made the right decision..
i always thought the more comfortable with each other, the better it is in a relationship..
I’m sorry to hear that! *hugs* i hope everything works out!
i’m sorry to hear about this & really admire your courage to take this step. i hope you’re doing well!
it takes a lot of strength, courage and self-awareness to reach this decision; you have my respect! And a big hug for the inevitably painful adjustment period that is to come… we’re here for you. *HUG*
you’re brave. i dont think i would ever be able to do that.
big hugs anyway. go retail theraphy and be happy okay!
things will just start to look better ;D
Sorry to hear about that. I hope you feel better soon.
But, I did marry my best friend. 😛
Hi Bev, maybe this could be the rightest decision you have ever made. *Hugz*.. You will definitely have a better life ahead!
{{(((hug))}}}
Bev, I am sure that the best is yet to come for you!
Nooo…I hope you are doing well..be strong . I know it is hard but I hope you will be happy again. Hope every road you take will turn out the best for you!! *big hugs*
Sorry to hear about the breakup, Beverly *big hugs*
stay strong 🙂
*hugs* gal. Get a bunch of galpals, go out and have a blast on V-Day. 🙂
I’m really sorry Bev, I remember reading your journal a few years back, and then when I rediscovered you again I was happy to see you were still together. I hope the two of you will remain good friends *hugs*
Hugs.
i’m at awe how you can stay soo strong. you’re my hero bev.
as you know i’m experiencing a breakup as well, and eventhough you guys broke up being in good terms, i’m sure it’s still difficult. and it’s amazing how you can still stay so postive.
HUGS. you’re an inspiration =)
you’re a very strong woman.
i’m sure you guys reached this decision after giving it alot of thought.
thinking of you *hugs*
oh bev, i’m sooooooo sorry 🙁 you must be going through a lot of different emotions at the moment, and it’s probably hard to think straight. it’s important to go with gut feelings and intuition, because in the end that’s what’s going to make you feel like the right decision was made (not whether it was rationally the right thing to do)
you seem so mature about it, and that’s really admirable. but you also need to take time to grieve because as you said, you have lost something, and it takes a long time to heal.
*Hugz* Take care
You’re brave! To know what you want and to go for it, even when it hurts like hell! Definitely not easy!
*hugz* Good Luck! 🙂
i guess as girls we want romance that blows us away even when we’ve been with someone for ages. it is indeed sensible to part while you know it won’t hurt as much as some time in the future. feels like i’m reading a chapter from a love novel. stay strong ya. vday can be for friends too!
*huggies*
personally i think its part of settling down, but i’ve not experienced it first hand.
I have seen couples break up after being together for many years and then found new partners and went on to get married and have kids. You have both tried to make it work, so there should be no regrets. Think maybe you guys were together at the wrong time… if you have known each other now, you may have gotten married eventually and grow old together.
Time will heal, just cook and bake more!
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bev,
i’m so sorry to hear about this. you sound like you’ve thought about this long and hard, and i’m sure it is the best decision for you right now. i am thinking over similar things as well. good luck to you and take care of yourself!
Hey bev, i really admire the courage both u and chris have. Not anyone would be able to walk away from a long-term relationship. In the meantime, take this period to re-discover yourself. You’ll be coming back to Singapore soon right? Enjoy singlehood and dating again! 🙂
sorry to hear that. only you know what’s the best for you..
*hugs*
Hugs. Sorry to hear that. Take care babe!
I’m really sorry to hear this. You and Chris did the right thing though. You tried to make things work, but you can’t drag out something that just isn’t meant to be. I know what you mean about wanting someone that you are madly in love with and just completely crazy about. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that someone you care about so much just isn’t that person.
It’s hard to trust that that person will ever come around, but they will.
OMG *faints*
woah, Bev, it’s going to be so weird, I guess from a reader’s point of view, I’m so used to reading about you and Chris. But it’s true, it’s better this way rather than dragging on. Trust God to provide you someone to fall MADLY in love with.
feel better bev =) i know exactly how you feel…
I’m sorry to hear about this. You & Chris seemed so happy together.
But if you two think you guys made the right choice, then I’ll support you both all the way. 🙂
x
So much better to end it now than to marry because you’re expected to and then end up miserable and divorced. Make plans with a friend or colleague for Valentine’s Day so you can eat a sinful dessert and not be alone. As others have said, it’s overrated but it might be on your mind more heavily this year than in the future and that’s understandable. Trust me, the half-priced day after candy at all the drugstores and supermarkets tastes just as good whether or not you are dating, in love, etc. 😉
I’m sorry you guys broke up… i hope you will both be ok!
all the best..
babe i’m really sorry to hear that, but at the same time, i think it’s so great that the both of you took a realistic look at where you wanted to be down the road, as partners in life or friendship. by the sounds of it, you definitely have a friend in him for life…both of you ending things because you realize that you’ve outgrown each other is a very mature way of looking at it…i know it’ll take time to heal, but you’re giving each other the chance to find the kind of love you want for life.
good luck 🙂
Very beautifully written entry. I’m sorry that you guys broke up.
seven year itch??
it happens, Bev..
*hugs*
the good thing is you both walked away now than later
*hugs* like u said, that’s life. It’s better to realise it now than later.
You know what I’m going to say, though my situation was much different, but in the end it’s still doing what’s best for you. I know it can’t be easy, because it’s sort of like you’re giving up your best friend, that 1 person you can do anything with/in front of. But, as you said you’re not madly in love and one shouldn’t just stay with someone because you’re “comfortable” with them.
I got with Tony when I was 16, and in my early 20’s I just started to change radically, growing up and out of the relationship (bad stuff aside). You’re a great girl and I have no doubt that you’ll find that guy that sweeps you off your feet. ♥
🙁
hugs
I have to admit, it makes me sad but your decision to walk away now is much better than trying to start up a marriage together when you both feel so differently than you did before. I think that this is something a lot of couples have to think through before they get married. Especially ones that have been together for like 4 years + or around that time frame.
I get what you mean about the finding someone else thing. What you and Chris built together didn’t just take compatibility but tons of time too. I hate to repeat cliche lines to people when they go through a big rough change but you know, things really do happen for a reason..
And I don’t doubt that you’ll find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. Let me know if you need anything! I’m just an email away *HUGS!!* 🙂 Take care, Bev 🙂
no wonder we havent seen photos of u two recently 🙁
i hope u two made the right decision..
i always thought the more comfortable with each other, the better it is in a relationship..
I’m sorry to hear that! *hugs* i hope everything works out!
as long as you are happy, that is all that matters.
I am so sorry to hear the sad news but I admire your courage to realize what you want for yourself and be truthful to yourself and to Chris. That’s really important. Although this must hurt you extremely deeply right now, time will heal. In the meantime, don’t worry about Valentine’s day – make a date with your girlfriends.
Hi Bev, I’m so sorry. *hugs* But you guys have done what is best for you both. Give yourself time to heal and take care. xx
you’re brave. i dont think i would ever be able to do that.
big hugs anyway. go retail theraphy and be happy okay!
things will just start to look better ;D
You are a smart girl, you know what you want 🙂
Sorry to hear about that. I hope you feel better soon.
But, I did marry my best friend. 😛
Like others, I’m glad that you and Chris didn’t end things on a negative note.
I really hope that you find the one that you deserve 🙂 *big hug*
*jaw drops* yep never expected it. I know you went through that rough patch but thats just what I thought it was, but then again when you think about it there were reasons why that rough patch occured and you both tried to change but in reality people dont change – easily. So it was a subtle indicator and its better than another 10 years of feeling this way in a relationship you both know isnt working they way you want.
Valentines day is completely overrated! I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself and enjoy some ‘me’ time!
hugs and ♥ from me to you.
Hi Bev, maybe this could be the rightest decision you have ever made. *Hugz*.. You will definitely have a better life ahead!
I’m sorry to hear about the break up. Feel better!
{{(((hug))}}}
Bev, I am sure that the best is yet to come for you!
I always thought it WAS best to end up marrying your best friend, that the crazy mad in love butterflies never last, but this doesn’t work for everyone. You should never settle for less than what you desire most for your life!
I wish you all the best, sweets! 🙂
i agree w/everything you said here.
don’t really know what to say…sorry to hear that, but take care of yourself!
Nooo…I hope you are doing well..be strong . I know it is hard but I hope you will be happy again. Hope every road you take will turn out the best for you!! *big hugs*
Sorry to hear that. =( You guys take care of yourselves.
Sorry to hear about the breakup, Beverly *big hugs*
Break up
I’m sure this is for the best and I only caution you to beware of rebounds. Best regards, Ed
Valentine’s day is overblown and commercialized.
100% in agreement with your statement.
Anyway Bev, what I’d do in your situation is to watch sad movies and cry it all out and then laugh my head off at comedies. Else, either sleep it off or go for retail therapy.
-HUGS-
I wouldn’t have you courage to walk away like you did. KUDOS girl! I do think that this is for the better because I agree that you just HAVE to marry the one you are absolutely CRAZY about!
But I’m glad there weren’t any ugly fights. There’s less heartaches and questions left unanswered this way.
stay strong 🙂
I’m really sorry Bev, I remember reading your journal a few years back, and then when I rediscovered you again I was happy to see you were still together. I hope the two of you will remain good friends *hugs*
Hugs.
i’m at awe how you can stay soo strong. you’re my hero bev.
as you know i’m experiencing a breakup as well, and eventhough you guys broke up being in good terms, i’m sure it’s still difficult. and it’s amazing how you can still stay so postive.
HUGS. you’re an inspiration =)
you’re a very strong woman.
i’m sure you guys reached this decision after giving it alot of thought.
thinking of you *hugs*
*Hugz* Take care
You’re brave! To know what you want and to go for it, even when it hurts like hell! Definitely not easy!
*hugz* Good Luck! 🙂
I have seen couples break up after being together for many years and then found new partners and went on to get married and have kids. You have both tried to make it work, so there should be no regrets. Think maybe you guys were together at the wrong time… if you have known each other now, you may have gotten married eventually and grow old together.
Time will heal, just cook and bake more!
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bev,
i’m so sorry to hear about this. you sound like you’ve thought about this long and hard, and i’m sure it is the best decision for you right now. i am thinking over similar things as well. good luck to you and take care of yourself!
Hey bev, i really admire the courage both u and chris have. Not anyone would be able to walk away from a long-term relationship. In the meantime, take this period to re-discover yourself. You’ll be coming back to Singapore soon right? Enjoy singlehood and dating again! 🙂
Hugs. Sorry to hear that. Take care babe!
I’m really sorry to hear this. You and Chris did the right thing though. You tried to make things work, but you can’t drag out something that just isn’t meant to be. I know what you mean about wanting someone that you are madly in love with and just completely crazy about. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that someone you care about so much just isn’t that person.
It’s hard to trust that that person will ever come around, but they will.
OMG *faints*
woah, Bev, it’s going to be so weird, I guess from a reader’s point of view, I’m so used to reading about you and Chris. But it’s true, it’s better this way rather than dragging on. Trust God to provide you someone to fall MADLY in love with.
feel better bev =) i know exactly how you feel…
So much better to end it now than to marry because you’re expected to and then end up miserable and divorced. Make plans with a friend or colleague for Valentine’s Day so you can eat a sinful dessert and not be alone. As others have said, it’s overrated but it might be on your mind more heavily this year than in the future and that’s understandable. Trust me, the half-priced day after candy at all the drugstores and supermarkets tastes just as good whether or not you are dating, in love, etc. 😉
all the best..
babe i’m really sorry to hear that, but at the same time, i think it’s so great that the both of you took a realistic look at where you wanted to be down the road, as partners in life or friendship. by the sounds of it, you definitely have a friend in him for life…both of you ending things because you realize that you’ve outgrown each other is a very mature way of looking at it…i know it’ll take time to heal, but you’re giving each other the chance to find the kind of love you want for life.
good luck 🙂
Very beautifully written entry. I’m sorry that you guys broke up.
*hugs* like u said, that’s life. It’s better to realise it now than later.
You know what I’m going to say, though my situation was much different, but in the end it’s still doing what’s best for you. I know it can’t be easy, because it’s sort of like you’re giving up your best friend, that 1 person you can do anything with/in front of. But, as you said you’re not madly in love and one shouldn’t just stay with someone because you’re “comfortable” with them.
I got with Tony when I was 16, and in my early 20’s I just started to change radically, growing up and out of the relationship (bad stuff aside). You’re a great girl and I have no doubt that you’ll find that guy that sweeps you off your feet. ♥
🙁
hugs
as long as you are happy, that is all that matters.
I am so sorry to hear the sad news but I admire your courage to realize what you want for yourself and be truthful to yourself and to Chris. That’s really important. Although this must hurt you extremely deeply right now, time will heal. In the meantime, don’t worry about Valentine’s day – make a date with your girlfriends.
Hi Bev, I’m so sorry. *hugs* But you guys have done what is best for you both. Give yourself time to heal and take care. xx
You are a smart girl, you know what you want 🙂
Like others, I’m glad that you and Chris didn’t end things on a negative note.
I really hope that you find the one that you deserve 🙂 *big hug*
*jaw drops* yep never expected it. I know you went through that rough patch but thats just what I thought it was, but then again when you think about it there were reasons why that rough patch occured and you both tried to change but in reality people dont change – easily. So it was a subtle indicator and its better than another 10 years of feeling this way in a relationship you both know isnt working they way you want.
Valentines day is completely overrated! I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself and enjoy some ‘me’ time!
hugs and ♥ from me to you.
I’m sorry to hear about the break up. Feel better!
I always thought it WAS best to end up marrying your best friend, that the crazy mad in love butterflies never last, but this doesn’t work for everyone. You should never settle for less than what you desire most for your life!
I wish you all the best, sweets! 🙂
i agree w/everything you said here.
don’t really know what to say…sorry to hear that, but take care of yourself!
Sorry to hear that. =( You guys take care of yourselves.
Break up
I’m sure this is for the best and I only caution you to beware of rebounds. Best regards, Ed
Valentine’s day is overblown and commercialized.
100% in agreement with your statement.
Anyway Bev, what I’d do in your situation is to watch sad movies and cry it all out and then laugh my head off at comedies. Else, either sleep it off or go for retail therapy.
-HUGS-
I wouldn’t have you courage to walk away like you did. KUDOS girl! I do think that this is for the better because I agree that you just HAVE to marry the one you are absolutely CRAZY about!
But I’m glad there weren’t any ugly fights. There’s less heartaches and questions left unanswered this way.
no way! I thought you were kidding 🙁 Sorry to hear that. You sound like you are taking it very well and doing well. Take care. XXX.
no way! I thought you were kidding 🙁 Sorry to hear that. You sound like you are taking it very well and doing well. Take care. XXX.
Sending lots of Hugs and Kisses to You
Hey girl I am so sorry that I am posting this late! But I am sorry that you and chris are no longer together. *Sending Big Hugs to you* Some times we ever know how or why things happen but I do wish you all the love, joy, and peace that your heart and soul can hold. And if need someone to talk about it I am here always!
Sending lots of Hugs and Kisses to You
Hey girl I am so sorry that I am posting this late! But I am sorry that you and chris are no longer together. *Sending Big Hugs to you* Some times we ever know how or why things happen but I do wish you all the love, joy, and peace that your heart and soul can hold. And if need someone to talk about it I am here always!
oh beverly, i’m sorry to hear the news. 🙁 you deserve all the best in love and i’m glad you know in your heart what you want/need. stay strong girl!
oh beverly, i’m sorry to hear the news. 🙁 you deserve all the best in love and i’m glad you know in your heart what you want/need. stay strong girl!
This is a bit late, but I’m amazed with your strength.
But we’ve decided if we’re not going to be together for the rest of our lives, it’s best to walk away now instead of dragging it on.
Wise and mature decision, IMHO. I do hope you guys still remain friends somehow. 🙂
This is a bit late, but I’m amazed with your strength.
But we’ve decided if we’re not going to be together for the rest of our lives, it’s best to walk away now instead of dragging it on.
Wise and mature decision, IMHO. I do hope you guys still remain friends somehow. 🙂
Hey Bev, sorry for the late reply, but there’s been a terrible flood going on in Jakarta for the past week and so I had to spend some nights at a hotel with no access to the Internet (awful!)
Anyways, I’m sorry to hear about the breakup. I do admire you so much, though. You’re a strong woman who knows exactly what you want and what you deserve. Not many people will have the courage to make such decision, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for so many years. Generally people would just stay in the “comfort zone” and drag on, until one day they meet someone else and realize that the new person is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their life with. And by then it would be too late to get out of the relationship.
As other LJ-er had said, you’re a FANTASTIC catch. Anyone who ends up with you is one hell of a lucky bastard =)
Hope you’ll feel better soon. *hugs*
Hey Bev, sorry for the late reply, but there’s been a terrible flood going on in Jakarta for the past week and so I had to spend some nights at a hotel with no access to the Internet (awful!)
Anyways, I’m sorry to hear about the breakup. I do admire you so much, though. You’re a strong woman who knows exactly what you want and what you deserve. Not many people will have the courage to make such decision, especially if you’ve been in a relationship for so many years. Generally people would just stay in the “comfort zone” and drag on, until one day they meet someone else and realize that the new person is actually the one they wanna spend the rest of their life with. And by then it would be too late to get out of the relationship.
As other LJ-er had said, you’re a FANTASTIC catch. Anyone who ends up with you is one hell of a lucky bastard =)
Hope you’ll feel better soon. *hugs*
hey girl, my reply is alittle late. But i hope that it hurts alittle less by now. Each day it will just hurt less till one day it will hurt no more alright?
Meanwhile, if you have decided, then dun look back. Love you and i’ll be praying 🙂
awwww, sad to hear of the break up..
hey girl, my reply is alittle late. But i hope that it hurts alittle less by now. Each day it will just hurt less till one day it will hurt no more alright?
Meanwhile, if you have decided, then dun look back. Love you and i’ll be praying 🙂
Im so sorry hun about the breakup. 🙁
I’m also in a very close “relationship” with my best friend and it’s more about compassion than passion? I also don’t see myself marrying him (i think) and we’ve known each other for a long time… It’s also quite confusing right now. However, your post makes me feel more independent and you made such a strong decision.
Your a lovely person, and I’m positive you’ll find someone you’ll want to spend the rest of you life with soon. 🙂 Life is full of surprises.*Hugs*
awwww, sad to hear of the break up..
Im so sorry hun about the breakup. 🙁
I’m also in a very close “relationship” with my best friend and it’s more about compassion than passion? I also don’t see myself marrying him (i think) and we’ve known each other for a long time… It’s also quite confusing right now. However, your post makes me feel more independent and you made such a strong decision.
Your a lovely person, and I’m positive you’ll find someone you’ll want to spend the rest of you life with soon. 🙂 Life is full of surprises.*Hugs*
oh babes… sorry to hear that but salute to you for being so brave. you are right about the needy,overwhelming love part though! thats every girl’s dream but most of the times, it doesn;t last past 2 year (for me.. ) *hugs* you are not alone!
I’m so sorry to hear that Bev! I’m sure you know what’s best for yourself and that everything will work out okay.
Personally speaking, when I married Cam, I married my best friend. Our love has never been like a scene out of a movie nor have I expected it to be. I’m sure it exists for some people, but for us, we’ve built such a strong partnership based on mutual respect and friendship, and that’s enough for us.
I think you need a strong basis of being best mates, particularly when you go through things like sleepless nights, changing shitty nappies, getting all old and wrinkly etc whereby having just passion to rely on just won’t cut it.
Now if you can find a rich, passionate, best mate of a man, you’ll have hit the jackpot!
oh babes… sorry to hear that but salute to you for being so brave. you are right about the needy,overwhelming love part though! thats every girl’s dream but most of the times, it doesn;t last past 2 year (for me.. ) *hugs* you are not alone!
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m sure it’s better to realise all of that now rather than in 10 years, though. ♥
Nothing to say but *hugs*. I’m proud of you although sad for what you and Chris were for so long…
I’m so sorry to hear that Bev! I’m sure you know what’s best for yourself and that everything will work out okay.
Personally speaking, when I married Cam, I married my best friend. Our love has never been like a scene out of a movie nor have I expected it to be. I’m sure it exists for some people, but for us, we’ve built such a strong partnership based on mutual respect and friendship, and that’s enough for us.
I think you need a strong basis of being best mates, particularly when you go through things like sleepless nights, changing shitty nappies, getting all old and wrinkly etc whereby having just passion to rely on just won’t cut it.
Now if you can find a rich, passionate, best mate of a man, you’ll have hit the jackpot!
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m sure it’s better to realise all of that now rather than in 10 years, though. ♥
Nothing to say but *hugs*. I’m proud of you although sad for what you and Chris were for so long…
When i read your entry, it reminded me of this quote from Sex and the City:
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”
You’re an amazing person, Beverly. I know you hear that a lot but you really are. and you’re going to find that ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love one day.
*Never settle for anything less than butterflies*
*HUGS*
Sorry to hear Bev. Be sure to spoil yourself silly and take some time to pamper yourself. I know you’ll one day find the guy that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. 🙂
*hugs* hang in there babe.
now you can find and marry your prince-charming millionaire (how about that 26 year old one you met a few months ago). and while you’re at it, find me one too.
xoxo
i’m not worried about you, you are a fantastic catch – cute-pretty, smart, successfull. and you are alot like me – i love to be treated like a princess (in return i’ll spoil my guy). i’ve been too spoiled in the past and can not settle for anything less.
oh and you will find that closeness again. welcome to the rest of your life…scary and exciting and totally in your control! *hug*
yosh, sorry to hear about your break up. but it is better that you do this now than later. you need to be with someone that you’re madly in love with. you need passion…
I’m so sorry to hear about it, but I’m glad that you were able to handle this so well. You’re so strong! I’m really, really impressed.
When i read your entry, it reminded me of this quote from Sex and the City:
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.”
You’re an amazing person, Beverly. I know you hear that a lot but you really are. and you’re going to find that ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love one day.
*Never settle for anything less than butterflies*
I’m sorry to read about this, I hope you’ll be fine soon and be happy always.
i’m sorry to hear about this & really admire your courage to take this step. i hope you’re doing well!
it takes a lot of strength, courage and self-awareness to reach this decision; you have my respect! And a big hug for the inevitably painful adjustment period that is to come… we’re here for you. *HUG*
*HUGS*
Sorry to hear Bev. Be sure to spoil yourself silly and take some time to pamper yourself. I know you’ll one day find the guy that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. 🙂
*hugs* gal. Get a bunch of galpals, go out and have a blast on V-Day. 🙂
oh bev, i’m sooooooo sorry 🙁 you must be going through a lot of different emotions at the moment, and it’s probably hard to think straight. it’s important to go with gut feelings and intuition, because in the end that’s what’s going to make you feel like the right decision was made (not whether it was rationally the right thing to do)
you seem so mature about it, and that’s really admirable. but you also need to take time to grieve because as you said, you have lost something, and it takes a long time to heal.
*hugs* hang in there babe.
now you can find and marry your prince-charming millionaire (how about that 26 year old one you met a few months ago). and while you’re at it, find me one too.
xoxo
i’m not worried about you, you are a fantastic catch – cute-pretty, smart, successfull. and you are alot like me – i love to be treated like a princess (in return i’ll spoil my guy). i’ve been too spoiled in the past and can not settle for anything less.
oh and you will find that closeness again. welcome to the rest of your life…scary and exciting and totally in your control! *hug*
i guess as girls we want romance that blows us away even when we’ve been with someone for ages. it is indeed sensible to part while you know it won’t hurt as much as some time in the future. feels like i’m reading a chapter from a love novel. stay strong ya. vday can be for friends too!
*huggies*
personally i think its part of settling down, but i’ve not experienced it first hand.
sorry to hear that. only you know what’s the best for you..
*hugs*
yosh, sorry to hear about your break up. but it is better that you do this now than later. you need to be with someone that you’re madly in love with. you need passion…
I’m so sorry to hear about it, but I’m glad that you were able to handle this so well. You’re so strong! I’m really, really impressed.
I’m sorry to hear about this. You & Chris seemed so happy together.
But if you two think you guys made the right choice, then I’ll support you both all the way. 🙂
x
I’m sorry you guys broke up… i hope you will both be ok!
seven year itch??
it happens, Bev..
*hugs*
the good thing is you both walked away now than later
I’m sorry to read about this, I hope you’ll be fine soon and be happy always.
I have to admit, it makes me sad but your decision to walk away now is much better than trying to start up a marriage together when you both feel so differently than you did before. I think that this is something a lot of couples have to think through before they get married. Especially ones that have been together for like 4 years + or around that time frame.
I get what you mean about the finding someone else thing. What you and Chris built together didn’t just take compatibility but tons of time too. I hate to repeat cliche lines to people when they go through a big rough change but you know, things really do happen for a reason..
And I don’t doubt that you’ll find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. Let me know if you need anything! I’m just an email away *HUGS!!* 🙂 Take care, Bev 🙂
no wonder we havent seen photos of u two recently 🙁
i hope u two made the right decision..
i always thought the more comfortable with each other, the better it is in a relationship..
I’m sorry to hear that! *hugs* i hope everything works out!
i’m sorry to hear about this & really admire your courage to take this step. i hope you’re doing well!
it takes a lot of strength, courage and self-awareness to reach this decision; you have my respect! And a big hug for the inevitably painful adjustment period that is to come… we’re here for you. *HUG*
you’re brave. i dont think i would ever be able to do that.
big hugs anyway. go retail theraphy and be happy okay!
things will just start to look better ;D
Sorry to hear about that. I hope you feel better soon.
But, I did marry my best friend. 😛
Hi Bev, maybe this could be the rightest decision you have ever made. *Hugz*.. You will definitely have a better life ahead!
{{(((hug))}}}
Bev, I am sure that the best is yet to come for you!
Nooo…I hope you are doing well..be strong . I know it is hard but I hope you will be happy again. Hope every road you take will turn out the best for you!! *big hugs*
Sorry to hear about the breakup, Beverly *big hugs*
stay strong 🙂
*hugs* gal. Get a bunch of galpals, go out and have a blast on V-Day. 🙂
I’m really sorry Bev, I remember reading your journal a few years back, and then when I rediscovered you again I was happy to see you were still together. I hope the two of you will remain good friends *hugs*
Hugs.
i’m at awe how you can stay soo strong. you’re my hero bev.
as you know i’m experiencing a breakup as well, and eventhough you guys broke up being in good terms, i’m sure it’s still difficult. and it’s amazing how you can still stay so postive.
HUGS. you’re an inspiration =)
you’re a very strong woman.
i’m sure you guys reached this decision after giving it alot of thought.
thinking of you *hugs*
oh bev, i’m sooooooo sorry 🙁 you must be going through a lot of different emotions at the moment, and it’s probably hard to think straight. it’s important to go with gut feelings and intuition, because in the end that’s what’s going to make you feel like the right decision was made (not whether it was rationally the right thing to do)
you seem so mature about it, and that’s really admirable. but you also need to take time to grieve because as you said, you have lost something, and it takes a long time to heal.
*Hugz* Take care
You’re brave! To know what you want and to go for it, even when it hurts like hell! Definitely not easy!
*hugz* Good Luck! 🙂
i guess as girls we want romance that blows us away even when we’ve been with someone for ages. it is indeed sensible to part while you know it won’t hurt as much as some time in the future. feels like i’m reading a chapter from a love novel. stay strong ya. vday can be for friends too!
*huggies*
personally i think its part of settling down, but i’ve not experienced it first hand.
I have seen couples break up after being together for many years and then found new partners and went on to get married and have kids. You have both tried to make it work, so there should be no regrets. Think maybe you guys were together at the wrong time… if you have known each other now, you may have gotten married eventually and grow old together.
Time will heal, just cook and bake more!
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bev,
i’m so sorry to hear about this. you sound like you’ve thought about this long and hard, and i’m sure it is the best decision for you right now. i am thinking over similar things as well. good luck to you and take care of yourself!
Hey bev, i really admire the courage both u and chris have. Not anyone would be able to walk away from a long-term relationship. In the meantime, take this period to re-discover yourself. You’ll be coming back to Singapore soon right? Enjoy singlehood and dating again! 🙂
sorry to hear that. only you know what’s the best for you..
*hugs*
Hugs. Sorry to hear that. Take care babe!
I’m really sorry to hear this. You and Chris did the right thing though. You tried to make things work, but you can’t drag out something that just isn’t meant to be. I know what you mean about wanting someone that you are madly in love with and just completely crazy about. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that someone you care about so much just isn’t that person.
It’s hard to trust that that person will ever come around, but they will.
OMG *faints*
woah, Bev, it’s going to be so weird, I guess from a reader’s point of view, I’m so used to reading about you and Chris. But it’s true, it’s better this way rather than dragging on. Trust God to provide you someone to fall MADLY in love with.
feel better bev =) i know exactly how you feel…
I’m sorry to hear about this. You & Chris seemed so happy together.
But if you two think you guys made the right choice, then I’ll support you both all the way. 🙂
x
So much better to end it now than to marry because you’re expected to and then end up miserable and divorced. Make plans with a friend or colleague for Valentine’s Day so you can eat a sinful dessert and not be alone. As others have said, it’s overrated but it might be on your mind more heavily this year than in the future and that’s understandable. Trust me, the half-priced day after candy at all the drugstores and supermarkets tastes just as good whether or not you are dating, in love, etc. 😉
I’m sorry you guys broke up… i hope you will both be ok!
all the best..
babe i’m really sorry to hear that, but at the same time, i think it’s so great that the both of you took a realistic look at where you wanted to be down the road, as partners in life or friendship. by the sounds of it, you definitely have a friend in him for life…both of you ending things because you realize that you’ve outgrown each other is a very mature way of looking at it…i know it’ll take time to heal, but you’re giving each other the chance to find the kind of love you want for life.
good luck 🙂
Very beautifully written entry. I’m sorry that you guys broke up.
seven year itch??
it happens, Bev..
*hugs*
the good thing is you both walked away now than later
*hugs* like u said, that’s life. It’s better to realise it now than later.
You know what I’m going to say, though my situation was much different, but in the end it’s still doing what’s best for you. I know it can’t be easy, because it’s sort of like you’re giving up your best friend, that 1 person you can do anything with/in front of. But, as you said you’re not madly in love and one shouldn’t just stay with someone because you’re “comfortable” with them.
I got with Tony when I was 16, and in my early 20’s I just started to change radically, growing up and out of the relationship (bad stuff aside). You’re a great girl and I have no doubt that you’ll find that guy that sweeps you off your feet. ♥
🙁
hugs
I have to admit, it makes me sad but your decision to walk away now is much better than trying to start up a marriage together when you both feel so differently than you did before. I think that this is something a lot of couples have to think through before they get married. Especially ones that have been together for like 4 years + or around that time frame.
I get what you mean about the finding someone else thing. What you and Chris built together didn’t just take compatibility but tons of time too. I hate to repeat cliche lines to people when they go through a big rough change but you know, things really do happen for a reason..
And I don’t doubt that you’ll find someone that you can spend the rest of your life with. Let me know if you need anything! I’m just an email away *HUGS!!* 🙂 Take care, Bev 🙂
no wonder we havent seen photos of u two recently 🙁
i hope u two made the right decision..
i always thought the more comfortable with each other, the better it is in a relationship..
I’m sorry to hear that! *hugs* i hope everything works out!
as long as you are happy, that is all that matters.
I am so sorry to hear the sad news but I admire your courage to realize what you want for yourself and be truthful to yourself and to Chris. That’s really important. Although this must hurt you extremely deeply right now, time will heal. In the meantime, don’t worry about Valentine’s day – make a date with your girlfriends.
Hi Bev, I’m so sorry. *hugs* But you guys have done what is best for you both. Give yourself time to heal and take care. xx
you’re brave. i dont think i would ever be able to do that.
big hugs anyway. go retail theraphy and be happy okay!
things will just start to look better ;D
You are a smart girl, you know what you want 🙂
Sorry to hear about that. I hope you feel better soon.
But, I did marry my best friend. 😛
Like others, I’m glad that you and Chris didn’t end things on a negative note.
I really hope that you find the one that you deserve 🙂 *big hug*
*jaw drops* yep never expected it. I know you went through that rough patch but thats just what I thought it was, but then again when you think about it there were reasons why that rough patch occured and you both tried to change but in reality people dont change – easily. So it was a subtle indicator and its better than another 10 years of feeling this way in a relationship you both know isnt working they way you want.
Valentines day is completely overrated! I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself and enjoy some ‘me’ time!
hugs and ♥ from me to you.
Hi Bev, maybe this could be the rightest decision you have ever made. *Hugz*.. You will definitely have a better life ahead!
I’m sorry to hear about the break up. Feel better!
{{(((hug))}}}
Bev, I am sure that the best is yet to come for you!
I always thought it WAS best to end up marrying your best friend, that the crazy mad in love butterflies never last, but this doesn’t work for everyone. You should never settle for less than what you desire most for your life!
I wish you all the best, sweets! 🙂
i agree w/everything you said here.
don’t really know what to say…sorry to hear that, but take care of yourself!
Nooo…I hope you are doing well..be strong . I know it is hard but I hope you will be happy again. Hope every road you take will turn out the best for you!! *big hugs*
Sorry to hear that. =( You guys take care of yourselves.
Sorry to hear about the breakup, Beverly *big hugs*
Break up
I’m sure this is for the best and I only caution you to beware of rebounds. Best regards, Ed
Valentine’s day is overblown and commercialized.
100% in agreement with your statement.
Anyway Bev, what I’d do in your situation is to watch sad movies and cry it all out and then laugh my head off at comedies. Else, either sleep it off or go for retail therapy.
-HUGS-
I wouldn’t have you courage to walk away like you did. KUDOS girl! I do think that this is for the better because I agree that you just HAVE to marry the one you are absolutely CRAZY about!
But I’m glad there weren’t any ugly fights. There’s less heartaches and questions left unanswered this way.
stay strong 🙂
I’m really sorry Bev, I remember reading your journal a few years back, and then when I rediscovered you again I was happy to see you were still together. I hope the two of you will remain good friends *hugs*
Hugs.
i’m at awe how you can stay soo strong. you’re my hero bev.
as you know i’m experiencing a breakup as well, and eventhough you guys broke up being in good terms, i’m sure it’s still difficult. and it’s amazing how you can still stay so postive.
HUGS. you’re an inspiration =)
you’re a very strong woman.
i’m sure you guys reached this decision after giving it alot of thought.
thinking of you *hugs*
*Hugz* Take care
You’re brave! To know what you want and to go for it, even when it hurts like hell! Definitely not easy!
*hugz* Good Luck! 🙂
I have seen couples break up after being together for many years and then found new partners and went on to get married and have kids. You have both tried to make it work, so there should be no regrets. Think maybe you guys were together at the wrong time… if you have known each other now, you may have gotten married eventually and grow old together.
Time will heal, just cook and bake more!
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bev,
i’m so sorry to hear about this. you sound like you’ve thought about this long and hard, and i’m sure it is the best decision for you right now. i am thinking over similar things as well. good luck to you and take care of yourself!
Hey bev, i really admire the courage both u and chris have. Not anyone would be able to walk away from a long-term relationship. In the meantime, take this period to re-discover yourself. You’ll be coming back to Singapore soon right? Enjoy singlehood and dating again! 🙂
Hugs. Sorry to hear that. Take care babe!
I’m really sorry to hear this. You and Chris did the right thing though. You tried to make things work, but you can’t drag out something that just isn’t meant to be. I know what you mean about wanting someone that you are madly in love with and just completely crazy about. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that someone you care about so much just isn’t that person.
It’s hard to trust that that person will ever come around, but they will.
OMG *faints*
woah, Bev, it’s going to be so weird, I guess from a reader’s point of view, I’m so used to reading about you and Chris. But it’s true, it’s better this way rather than dragging on. Trust God to provide you someone to fall MADLY in love with.
feel better bev =) i know exactly how you feel…
So much better to end it now than to marry because you’re expected to and then end up miserable and divorced. Make plans with a friend or colleague for Valentine’s Day so you can eat a sinful dessert and not be alone. As others have said, it’s overrated but it might be on your mind more heavily this year than in the future and that’s understandable. Trust me, the half-priced day after candy at all the drugstores and supermarkets tastes just as good whether or not you are dating, in love, etc. 😉
all the best..
babe i’m really sorry to hear that, but at the same time, i think it’s so great that the both of you took a realistic look at where you wanted to be down the road, as partners in life or friendship. by the sounds of it, you definitely have a friend in him for life…both of you ending things because you realize that you’ve outgrown each other is a very mature way of looking at it…i know it’ll take time to heal, but you’re giving each other the chance to find the kind of love you want for life.
good luck 🙂
Very beautifully written entry. I’m sorry that you guys broke up.
*hugs* like u said, that’s life. It’s better to realise it now than later.
You know what I’m going to say, though my situation was much different, but in the end it’s still doing what’s best for you. I know it can’t be easy, because it’s sort of like you’re giving up your best friend, that 1 person you can do anything with/in front of. But, as you said you’re not madly in love and one shouldn’t just stay with someone because you’re “comfortable” with them.
I got with Tony when I was 16, and in my early 20’s I just started to change radically, growing up and out of the relationship (bad stuff aside). You’re a great girl and I have no doubt that you’ll find that guy that sweeps you off your feet. ♥
🙁
hugs
as long as you are happy, that is all that matters.
I am so sorry to hear the sad news but I admire your courage to realize what you want for yourself and be truthful to yourself and to Chris. That’s really important. Although this must hurt you extremely deeply right now, time will heal. In the meantime, don’t worry about Valentine’s day – make a date with your girlfriends.
Hi Bev, I’m so sorry. *hugs* But you guys have done what is best for you both. Give yourself time to heal and take care. xx
You are a smart girl, you know what you want 🙂
Like others, I’m glad that you and Chris didn’t end things on a negative note.
I really hope that you find the one that you deserve 🙂 *big hug*
*jaw drops* yep never expected it. I know you went through that rough patch but thats just what I thought it was, but then again when you think about it there were reasons why that rough patch occured and you both tried to change but in reality people dont change – easily. So it was a subtle indicator and its better than another 10 years of feeling this way in a relationship you both know isnt working they way you want.
Valentines day is completely overrated! I hope you feel better soon, take care of yourself and enjoy some ‘me’ time!
hugs and ♥ from me to you.
I’m sorry to hear about the break up. Feel better!
I always thought it WAS best to end up marrying your best friend, that the crazy mad in love butterflies never last, but this doesn’t work for everyone. You should never settle for less than what you desire most for your life!
I wish you all the best, sweets! 🙂
i agree w/everything you said here.
don’t really know what to say…sorry to hear that, but take care of yourself!
Sorry to hear that. =( You guys take care of yourselves.
Break up
I’m sure this is for the best and I only caution you to beware of rebounds. Best regards, Ed
Valentine’s day is overblown and commercialized.
100% in agreement with your statement.
Anyway Bev, what I’d do in your situation is to watch sad movies and cry it all out and then laugh my head off at comedies. Else, either sleep it off or go for retail therapy.
-HUGS-
I wouldn’t have you courage to walk away like you did. KUDOS girl! I do think that this is for the better because I agree that you just HAVE to marry the one you are absolutely CRAZY about!
But I’m glad there weren’t any ugly fights. There’s less heartaches and questions left unanswered this way.